Due to the pandemic during much of 2020, we have been isolated from circumstances where we feel that we belong. Not being able to associate as we have in the past at work, church, in the community and even with extended family, have made us keenly aware of the value of those relationships. When we feel we have the support of others and are not alone, we often cope more effectively with difficult times in our lives.
Humans have a deep desire to connect with others. We long to feel valued and supported. We long to share our thoughts, emotions, and life with others. We long to feel needed by others. These desires reflect a fundamental human need to not only be in the physical or digital presence of others but also to belong with them.
I have discovered that engaging in temple and family history work is a marvelous way for us to fulfill this human need to belong. It has worked for me and my extended family. Let me explain how.
Over the past couple of years I worked on writing a history of my dad. Since he passed away almost 30 years ago, I couldn’t interview him. But I did interview a couple of his siblings and other people in his life. I found myself growing to love them and appreciate them more as well as my dad. I also learned more about his parents, grandparents and refining experiences in their lives. I was strengthened by their experiences, testimonies and legacy. I came to realize that they are interested in me. I can feel that they are rooting for me on the other side of the veil. I also feel an excitement in knowing that I will be able to meet them some day and thank them for the lessons I learned from their examples.
Another surprising result came out of my dad’s history. As I shared with my siblings the history, along with pictures, stories and memories that I had digitized, they responded with the feelings of belonging they felt. It confirmed again the realization that the Spirit of Elijah brings families together on both sides of the veil. As their hearts are softened, it also opens up opportunities to bring families together with God.
This year I read what my great grandmother wrote about the lessons she learned in her life. She wrote it when she was the same age I am now. I could not believe how similar her discoveries and joys were to mine. Again, I can’t wait to meet her and to thank her for her contribution to my life.
Though the pandemic has made it difficult to meet and work together at the Family History Center and perform ordinances for the dead in the temple, it has also taken away many of the worldly pursuits that prevented me from engaging in meaningful family history. With all the resources available to us at home, including familysearch.org, thefhguide.com and granitefhc.com, I can participate in so many meaningful activities that help me to feel that I belong. Elder Dale G. Renlund promised us in April 2018 General Conference that if we would engage in family history there would be “increased family blessings, no matter our current, past, or future family situation or how imperfect our family may be.” He also promised that we would have “increased love and appreciation for ancestors and living relatives, so we no longer feel alone.” I testify that what he said is true!
–Dave Castleton, Director, Granite Family History Center